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Originally Posted by punkmusicfan21
I would like to reply to all of those who have commented with thank you; it's always appriciated. I'm not sure if I was looking for a grow up but it is nice to learn that pulling out is useless. I am at a point in my life where pregnancy would simply put a large halt to both of our futures. And it is scary, we both have very bright paths ahead of us, and to see them being changed freaks us out. Yes, she has had her breasts feel larger and tender before and has felt ill before also; so thank you to Buk who posted about the effects of birthcontrol, that really eases my mind.
This is not about not accepting or foreseeing any problems, such as becoming a father. I will be a good father I'm sure, and Ash will be an amazing mother, she was born to be.
I began this thread simply looking for flaws in my paranoia, not in my approach to making love to my fiancee. If a child is a result of it then it will be accepted and loved. I am, unashamedly so, quite niave and unexperienced when it comes to intercourse. I know how to make a girl come but beyond the teenaged frolics I encountered I am uninformed. I don't trust the medical journals or pages dedicated to the subject on the internet obviously, I thought I would come to a place where I could put my trust in the more then experienced perople around me.
NG: My fiancee and I are both young and inexperienced, we are both willing to learn and communication is never, and has never, been a problem; ESPECIALLY sexually. But asking each other what we enjoy is far from this subject. Otherwise we would. I ask here instead; I thought that was clear?
thank you for your posts and please continue; i love feedback.
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Asking what you enjoy goes a very long way in avoiding pregnancy. Knowing now that pulling out, for instance, does nothing to prevent can go either way-you can either now injoy the sensation of coming inside her or avoid the pulling out scenario entirely by engaging in some other act. It's ALL related.
Birth Control pills are designed to mimic pregnancy which is why so many girls think they might be pregnant soon after they go on it. This should have been explained to her when she got them. Breasts will enlarge, feel sore(caffeine, chocolate and red wine will further that feeling as well) and can even leak milk when stimulated. Mood swings are possible, as are libido swings and there may be some vaginal dryness.
The main point here is twofold; one, educate. Sex isn't just stickin it in and pumping, you know that. And when you know what's what, the paranoia will subside. Two, slow down. Not just in what you do, but in the thought process. Let logic take hold and think a little. But, I will reiterate; if all this panic and paranoia is taking over, you need to cool it until you can handle whatever the situation presents.
You do need to trust medical journals, etc. We're laypeople. We're going by the combo of what we have learned with what we have experienced, but we're not you. By reading up and seeking out real medical information, you're in a better position to compare and relate.