doncalypso

I'm 24 and my current girlfriend is turning 37 in a month.

The only problem in our relationship right now is that we have very different (if not incompatible) sex drives: I want it all the time whereas she hardly has any desire for sex because of the interaction of her birth control and the medicine she's taking for a thyroid condition.

Anyhow, she treats me very well, is very caring and loving, and she puts no pressure on me whatsoever for marriage or family. She has made it known that she does hope to settle down with me, but she won't roll over and die if we don't have children because she'd been single for a long time when we met and was pretty much ready to live the rest of her life without a husband or children.

The way I see it, the biggest hurdle in dating an older woman isn't so much the proverbial biological clock but rather giving her the comfort and security that comes from knowing that you're committed to the relationship and that you won't just up and leave her after a few years because you feel it's time you got with someone younger. But then again, maybe I'm just very lucky.

A few friends of mine know about the age difference between me and my girlfriend, but it's not big deal. Besides, my parents both know about her, they've met her, and they really like her---so much that they even invited her to come spend a few days at our home in Haiti for Christmas (assuming the political situation doesn't get any worse).

This being said, I think BigDonkey2 should be very discreet about his relationship with that older woman at the gym since he makes it sound like that place is rife with gossip. Eventually some people will figure out something is going on between him and that woman, but so long as he and the ones who know about his relationship keep their mouths shut then everything will be alright.

A word of advice for other guys reading this who are dating or are considering dating an older woman.

When you're with a woman who is 10+ years older than you don't be surprised by the fact that she's most probably dated a whole helluva lot more than you have and therefore could possibly have had a lot more sexual partners than you. Even if she has a clean bill of health and is STD-free, the fact of the matter is that she's probably been with more men than you'd be comfortable with, so be sure you can handle that and won't let it drive you crazy.

Sure she may have a lot more sexual experience than women you've been with thus far, but this means she probably has been with guys who are more experienced than you and were probably better lovers and more well-endowed. In all likelihood you are not the best she's ever had in bed, but you must come to terms with that and realize that there's a reason why she dumped the other guys and is with you now, so don't sweat it.

And finally, if she's lived in the area for quite some years you're more than likely bound to run into some of her former boyfriends and lovers from time to time. It may be awkward, but you have to remember that there's a reason why she's with you and not with them, so if your ego can handle the fact that she's been with other men and had a life before you then you're all set. But if you can't deal with the reality that an older woman may have had a more "fruitful" past than you're comfortable with, maybe you shouldn't be dating them.

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