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Originally Posted by Sultana
Exactly. This is why when you make friends, you do it incrementally. Once you think they may be a good friend, share a few things, see how it goes. There's no need to get verbal diarrhea and confess all one's sins and share every deep secret thing in one's heart right away. This takes time.
It never hurts to play your cards close to your chest. You can always say something, but you can never "un-say" something.
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I know that I have friends--well, maybe just acquaintances-- that I like a lot but know that I can't really trust. I also have friends that I can trust in some ways, but not others. Example--I have one friend that I could loan $1000 and know that I would be repaid. She is 100% cash-register honest. On the other hand, you can't tell her anything in confidence. A couple of years ago, when I first met her, I happened to say in kind of an off-hand way that I was going in for a mammogram the next week. By the time it got back to me, the story was that I was having problems with my breast implants. I don't even have implants. So, she is not only a gossip, but an "embroiderer" as well.
One thing about men, for all their drawbacks, at least most of them aren't gossips.
Lindy