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Jimellow · 07-11-2006, 09:57 AM

Again, thanks for the replies..

I texted her my address and name (subtle humor, which I doubt she will appreciate), and congratulated her on graduation..

To address a few posts..

I have no problem giving her my address, and given her lack of interest, I would consider stalking me to be very unlikely. If she were to stalk me, I would likely commend her for finally showing some interest in maintaining her end of the friendship.

I've tried numerous times to initiate actual conversation, but not answering the phone and lacking voicemail makes it next to impossible. People lean on text messaging way too heavily from my experience; it's unfortunate.

Slim, while I do agree with your suggestion that people get used to having others around and take it for granted, I've already accepted that there isn't much "there" and instead am just working my way towards closure. By not replying to the invite and ignoring her from here on out, I am just opening the door wider and straying from finality.

If we were unable to maintain a solid friendship in the years prior to now, it certainly won't be a reality from here on out. We are both at branching points in life, and I'd ultimately like to move, start life somewhere else, etc, and if we can't communicate when we live in the same county, I find the potential of future correspondance to be next to non-existent. It is basically non-existent on her end already, and the future shows no indication of changing for the better. Thus, I am ultimately just seeking some closure so I can move on with life. That closure will likely be found through informing her that I won't be attending her party; at which point I will also likely wish her good luck in life, etc.

If the relationship were going to be redeemed, the time is likely passed. I am leaning very heavily towards moving on and I suspect she will not be at a loss for such a move. I understand people have busy lives, drama, and work, but a phone call can take less than five minutes. The act itself is not difficult or time consuming, and I honestly am starting to get tired of chasing after someone that isn't reciprocal.

07-11-2006, 09:57 AM	#20 (permalink)
Jimellow Junkie	Again, thanks for the replies.. I texted her my address and name (subtle humor, which I doubt she will appreciate), and congratulated her on graduation.. To address a few posts.. I have no problem giving her my address, and given her lack of interest, I would consider stalking me to be very unlikely. If she were to stalk me, I would likely commend her for finally showing some interest in maintaining her end of the friendship. I've tried numerous times to initiate actual conversation, but not answering the phone and lacking voicemail makes it next to impossible. People lean on text messaging way too heavily from my experience; it's unfortunate. Slim, while I do agree with your suggestion that people get used to having others around and take it for granted, I've already accepted that there isn't much "there" and instead am just working my way towards closure. By not replying to the invite and ignoring her from here on out, I am just opening the door wider and straying from finality. If we were unable to maintain a solid friendship in the years prior to now, it certainly won't be a reality from here on out. We are both at branching points in life, and I'd ultimately like to move, start life somewhere else, etc, and if we can't communicate when we live in the same county, I find the potential of future correspondance to be next to non-existent. It is basically non-existent on her end already, and the future shows no indication of changing for the better. Thus, I am ultimately just seeking some closure so I can move on with life. That closure will likely be found through informing her that I won't be attending her party; at which point I will also likely wish her good luck in life, etc. If the relationship were going to be redeemed, the time is likely passed. I am leaning very heavily towards moving on and I suspect she will not be at a loss for such a move. I understand people have busy lives, drama, and work, but a phone call can take less than five minutes. The act itself is not difficult or time consuming, and I honestly am starting to get tired of chasing after someone that isn't reciprocal. __________________ Desperation is no excuse for lowering one's standards. Last edited by Jimellow; 07-11-2006 at 10:09 AM..