Gut reaction? I'd MOVE, without much of a second thought. But that's because I've moved 10 times in the last 10 years (having left home at 17, and glad to do so), and each time I've seen it as an opportunity opening up. I have almost never regretted taking a risk; the rewards always outpace any losses. But that's my personality and outlook on life in general; "if you must doubt, DOUBT YOUR LIMITS." You will survive, either way; but which way brings less suffering for you? Only you can decide.
That said, there have been some VERY good replies on this thread... I'll quote my two favorites so far:
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Originally Posted by maleficent
Home.. that's a word.. What is home exactly? Home is where your heart is... so is your heart with your boyfriend and your future, or your family (who I am wllling to bet will love and support you in whatever you decide) and your past.
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You're 25... old enough to make your home wherever you wish it to be. If you truly want your home to be near your family of origin, you'd better not go to Texas, because then you'll start resenting your bf, and he'll be sad. If you feel like your boyfriend could become your home, and your family (e.g. you start a family with him, and create your own homw), then go. Where do you feel most comfortable, most loved, most embraced? In NY, or with your man? Choose from there.
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Originally Posted by tecoyah
......Eventually, you WILL move away from Family, Both in a physical and emotional way. Why not do so under exciting, and fulfilling circumstances.
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Again, that's also my take. Family will always be there, in one form or another... they're obligated to love you, and you're obligated to love them back. But a significant other is something else. You chose him, and he chose you. You can't always come back to that. There is the chance that if you don't go to TX, the long-distance won't work. What would you rather regret; losing him, or losing the comfort of having your family at arm's length? (Personally, I like to keep my family at arm's length, if not cross-country's length, hehe.)
Highly personal topic. Only you can decide, like I said. But I think you'll find that in the end, the biggest regrets in life are not from taking risks... they are from being afraid of them, and losing out on the greatest opportunity you might have had. Again, that's my personal philosophy though.
Do what your heart tells you; no one can argue with what "home" is for you, once you know what it is yourself.