Jimellow

That's a very nice quote. I like it, and think I will write it down, minus the "She is.." part, so it has a more general application.

She just texted me again, this time requesting my address so she can send out a party invitation.. The last two times were over AIM.

I don't intend to go to the party, nor do I intend to totally blow her off and ignore her request.

I'd appreciate some advice regarding going about this.. I am tempted to give her my address, but also add that I find it unlikely I will be attending the party, as it would not be the type of gathering I was hoping to use as a means for "catching up."

If I go to the party, it is likely going to result in more of the same, and I'd prefer not drawing this situation out longer than it already has been.

I'd prefer not to piss her off, but I'd also prefer to close this out and move on; especially considering that I am at a stage in life where I am ready to move on with my life, and as a result, would like to tie up loose ends, instead of creating new, or extending the length of current, ones.

But please, if you have any recommendations regarding the means by which I should go about this, I'd greatly appreciate it. I would prefer a call, but since she doesn't answer and does not call herself, my reply is likely going to be via text messaging, unfortunately.

Also, if you have conflicting advice, I'd love to hear it, though I honestly am pretty set in believing that attending her party is not going to improve the situation, but instead drag things out further.

EDIT: I just thought of the possiblity that I give her my address, and then write her a letter, explaining why I won't be attending the party, while also adding my thoughts on a lack of communication and how I think it ultimately resulted in a friendship that became too distanced to the point where now, I feel it is stretched too thin. I then would go on to congratulate her for graduating and wishing her luck in life. Then, the end. Closure, we all move on our own seperate ways.

Writing is easily my strongest means by which to communicate, and it would be a fitting way to reply to an invitation to a party I won't be attending. It also would be much more meaningful and valid than a text message sent via cell phone.

Or I could just send indication via cell phone text message, saying a party was not the means by which I was hoping to catch up.. But that still has the potential of creating a lingering feeling, and thus, no closure.

Thoughts?

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