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Originally Posted by ngdawg
While I can understand the hesitation to reply, I have to ask-is your disregard for answering a social study to see how she progresses or just because you don't know how to respond?... Either way, ignoring, even with a less than stellar past, is rude-treat others as you would expect to be and you'll find your answer.
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I second the question dawg asked here. Having been in a situation seemingly much like this, I'll admit that I was actually tempted to just see where her attentions would lead if given long enough by herself. Not as a matter of spite, mind you; it was more one of intrigue and curiousity.
However, though you've had little to no real communication for a while, you start off your post by stating that you and she have been friends for a few years... stated in the present tense. If you feel that you are, though strained, friends, give her a call. It's rude to just outright ignore somebody, and you might find that their disappointment after so long of wanting to communicate with you so much may turn to more aggressive and angry feelings toward you.
You seem worried about being "used" again if you start talking to this girl. Just don't allow that to happen. If you're going to talk to her and persue a romantic relationship, put it up front if it bothers you as much as it seems to. If you're going to call her and just keep it friendly, that's great too. Some of my best friendships are with women whom I either was or am attracted to, but can keep it just friendly in spite of that. It's even fine to call her and decide not to stay close. But
don't just leave her hanging.