Jimellow

I've been friends with a girl I know for a few years now. Initially, I think I wanted to date her, but we fell into friendship, and as a result I was more "into" her than she was me. I would always be the one calling, attempting to initiate contact, and also was generally getting snubbed or replies that were insignificant and lacking in content/quality. Despite this, I continued to chase, and ultimately was put into a few situations where I felt very used and thrown aside afterwards.

We have not talked much recently, but on the Fourth I replied to what I later suspected was a mass texting (to all her contacts) saying "Hi," and suggesting a potential meeting to catch up and talk. Once more, the reply was minimal, almost non-existent. In response, I basically sent her a Text message via cell (no voice mail, and not online) essentially saying "I hope you had an enjoyable 4th, and have a nice summer." The indication was clear that I intended attempts at further conversation to be over, because I was tired of chasing after something I didn't even want anymore.

The interesting thing here (and the meat of this post), is that now she is the one contacting me.. She wants my address so she can invite me to a graduation party she is having, and has been persistent with requesting it. Today she sent me a TXT saying she passed her last test, is done with school, and misses me.

The requests for my address were made over AIM and I was not around at the time, but I would not have replied anyway, as I am very suspicious she is just leading me on for future use later. I have been making a conscious effort to neglect her communication attempts lately, and in a result that is totally blowing my mind, these efforts have increased her attempts at communication/caring, whereas previously my response would have resulted in her being minimal to non-existent in her replies!

Based on my history with this girl and our communication trends, I am very confident that neglecting her attempts at communication have resulted in her trying to contact me more, and this intrigues me greatly.

What is going on here? Is it a game? Is she fearful that a total loss of contact will result in her not having me available for filling a role that may arise in the future?

Unfortunately, I doubt it is about maintaining friendship, because if it is, the means of indicating interest are totally out of whack to me. Ignoring my attempts at communication and only showing interest when I ignore her/you seems like a very convoluted way of maintaining a "friendship."

EDIT: As a brief aside and justification for why I've been so determined to stay in contact with this girl. When we were close and hanging out, I felt that there was something very special about her, and thus I was/am reluctant to just fall out of contact like I may with other acquaintances that I am not as close to. There was a time when I was quite gaga over her, and while that feeling has faded, I think I still am distantly reluctant to let go.

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