The thing is, most women really do prefer sensitive, responsible guys -- when it's time to settle down and they want a steady mate to be domestic with. But many like assertive, dangerous-seeming (and exciting), alpha-male types for flings and short relationships before they think about settling down.
Jmellow's advice is great: be a sensitive, responsible, _and assertive_ guy who's ready, willing, and able to take the lead: ask for the date, pick the place, take charge of the arrangements, and make your likes and dislikes known. That's close enough to alpha for most women. Especially when it's pretty clear to them that you won't be heartbroken if it doesn't work out.
And why should you be? It's dating. It's very unlikely that any particular woman will be "the one." If you date a bunch of people and only after five years of it find somebody who you want to spend the rest of your life with (and she with you), that's really not usual. That's the way it usually works -- although we hear more about the exceptions in the media and in fiction.
Just have fun, is all. That should be number 1. If you're not having fun on a date _right there and right now_, why do you want to be there? (Yeah, sex, I know -- but how good is it going to be, and how likely are you to get it, or even want it, if the date is totally "not you.")
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