EDIT!!!: Don't be a prick! Girls arn't looking for that. Girls arn't attracted to the "asshole quality". Women are attracted to other, more appealing qualities and after dating for awhile they realize he is an asshole and leave him. You are too extreme, you have women on poles man, north being "Nice-guy-loving Mcwants-to-marry and Hottie McSleeps-with-anyone. There is no specific type. Everyone is looking for something different. Be yourself... just turn it down.
Now Read what I had to say.
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Originally Posted by Sage
If these girls are all telling you the same thing, there's probably something about you that's turning them off. Maybe you seem too eager to be nice to them, maybe you're just not that attractive- whatever it is, when a girl says something like that and then turns around and has casual sex with your friend, it's not them, it's you.
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So true. I bet you anything the fact you are breathing down their neck for love and acceptance is pushing them away. It is possible to be a constant in someones life without being constantly in their face. Don't become weak or passive either because that does nothing but makes you look like your sulking.
Look, I was you a couple of years ago and I know what it is like to be the nice guy. I'm sure there are many attractive things about you that you only wish people like this woman would see. At the same time you always feel inept and jealous of those around you. here's the solution...
Take a step back. Just take a step back and try not to force so much. Relax man. Sometimes people just want to feel like shit and don't want you in their face being nice. Sometimes it's nice for a girl to come home and see that you havn't called for once. In fact, this sudden step back will make her pursue most likely.
i know this sounds like a game but I am so very anti-player and certainly anti-game. But it's kind of the rules of life. Dancing Through Life is stressfree, as well as apealing to others. Just put on some mental music, don't stress, and be there for her when she needs it. Still be the nice guy, be yourself. Just turn down the eagerness. No one is turned on by desperate actions and pleas.
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Originally Posted by Toaster126
If "being himself" was working, he wouldn't have come for advice. He is (I'm assuming) wanting to improve himself. People aren't stagnant - they are constantly changing. There isn't such a thing as "being yourself".
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Do you really think forcing from a different angle is going to help. Forcing a situation will always be forcing a situation. If he becomes another personality, like "the prick", he'll still be the desperate, eager to please, prick. He doesn't need to "change" his whole personality, or it at all. He just needs to learn social boundries.