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Originally Posted by match000
fake it till ya make it?
if you pretend, you're going to attract the wrong types anyways.. and that's not what you want either..
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I'm not saying to "be fake". I'm saying to act out what you wish to become. As Aristotle says, "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit."
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Originally Posted by match000
probably better just to 'be yourself', and let a girl who naturally likes the 'nice guy type' find you...?
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If "being himself" was working, he wouldn't have come for advice. He is (I'm assuming) wanting to improve himself. People aren't stagnant - they are constantly changing. There isn't such a thing as "being yourself".
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