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Originally Posted by analog
If nothing else, they probably see the way most parents treat those who don't want children, and figure if they said anything they'd get the same (but possibly even worse) abuse. Plus, then they may feel like people see them as bad parents. I know one parent like this personally. I'm practically the only person who knows he doesn't like having kids (he has 2), because back when he ever mentioned it to anyone, he'd be demonized and called a bad parent. So, now he keeps it to himself.
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As much as I can understand the validity of your viewpoint, and accept it as worth contemplating, I need to say something Analog:
There are a few instances where ....experience in a subject become a requirement for learned opinion to be used, and in my personal opinion this is one of them. While the descision to reproduce, and take on the many aspects of child rearing (hardcore family life) might seem a mere subject of debate.....for those contemplating the choice, it is not. There is no "Light" version of parenting, You either have been there....or not.
The negativity you project is likely an issue best dealt with elsewhere if only to avoid tarnishing an otherwise useful discussion to the OP.
That said, my experience has been one of fear, and painful realization. The children I have are very difficult to raise, and will be the death of me eventually. They are the best thing I have ever done in MY LIFE. Should anyone ever say parenting is easy....they might be somewhat confused, but there is nothing in this life I have found to be as rewarding, and no other veture I can say I will never regret.
The only advice I have is very simple........
Should you decide to have children, be prepared for life to become more difficult on many levels.....some you cannot imagine.
But it is...in my opinion...well worth the effort.