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I think it's good that even though Dad isn't perfect, he cares enough to take her for a few weeks & try to establish a bond
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My kids do not see their Dad because he can't be bothered with them. On earlier occasions, years ago, he'd take them, but only after the kids begged him to let them come stay with him. The last time he had them, and I went to get the kids, I cried in horror at how he had ben neglecting them. If it wasn't for the fact that their Grandpa lived next door, the kids wouldn't have eaten or bathed at all.
If he had merely been somewhat inattentive or indifferent, I wouldn't have any issues. My dad never did anything wonderful or entertaining with us & we survived.
I think your daughter's homesickness & anxiety is partly propelled by your own anxiety. Kids pick up on that. Instead of trying to curtail the visits, work out ideas with him & her to keep her occupied.
If part of the problem is the child hardly sees Dad, she could keep in touch will calls or letter during the months of the year she doesn't see him. Like it or not, he's her Dad, and there's a relationship there that will always exist.
If I am totally off base, and this is more serious than I've perceived, you need to talk to a lawyer about changing your custodial agreement, because they aren't written in stone.
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