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Originally Posted by flstf
Do the women refer to each other as wives and the men refer to each other as husbands most times? I am not trying to be difficult but am genuinely interested in using correct terms that do not offend anyone.
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The gay couples I know that are married generally refer to each other using the standard terms, married woman = wife, married man = husband.
I do know of a married MTF couple that prefers that no label be used other than their names, feeling that such labels are and should be irrelevant.
Unmarried homosexual couples tend to use partner or boyfriend/girlfriend, as do the unmarried heterosexual couples I know.
My beef with Infinite Loser was that I'd clearly been referring to Grace as my wife and he switched to partner in direct response to a post in which I'd used wife. I interpreted that as his refusal to accept that we are married, which he later confirmed was an accurate inference, and objected to it on those grounds. It wasn't so much the word as the implied criticism behind it.
So long as he's polite in further usage, it shouldn't be an issue any longer.
Gilda