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Old 06-29-2006, 05:20 PM   #17 (permalink)
Gilda
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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
but you do detail the nuances of your daily life, in your journal and in some of your comments about what happens at the school and at the hospital. Some people find it mundane and mind numbing and don't really want to hear it, but your real friends want to hear about what's going on in your life, no matter how boring it seems to you. At some point in time something of interest happens to you during the day. You recount some of it to your close circle, yet they stay and listen and aren't driven away.
I do put that in my journal, true, but that's writing. Writing comes easily to me, and I express myself much better and much more clearly because of all the advantages that come with being able to compose and edit thoughts, and because writing is, for me, a different way of thinking and processing than thinking or talking.

Even then, a little under half the stuff I compose for my journal gets deleted because I'm not satisfied with it, and well over half of my posts get deleted at the preview stage for the same reason. I have to be a lot more careful in face to face interactions because there is no opportunity to compose, edit, preview, and delete the potentially dull or offensive stuff.

That's part of the reason I value internet communication over face to face, t least for everyone but the two women I live with. It allows you to minimize the extraneous stuff a lot easier.

Yes I do share the details of my everyday life with those with whom I am emotionally intimate, but that isn't the same thing as doing that with a casual aquaintance. I'm going to tell Grace and Sissy about, say, missing the offramp today on the highway and why it happened, but nobody else would want to hear the details of something like that.

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