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Originally Posted by ngdawg
Which brings me to this pondering: Why is the decision to not have kids logical but the decision TO have them called emotional? I could take a few guesses, but I think it all boils down to where our own selfishnesses(new word) lie.
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Nope. Two wrongs don't make a right. The thing is that creating a life and being responsible for it is a decision that you should take seriously. Either way, a real hard look at one's emotional health as well as ability to give yourself to your child without resentment or expectation of "thanks" should really happen. Chasey and I like to think that we came to the conclusion to our decision to have a child logically. It is funny to us to watch people's reactions when they find out we are only having one. Same sort of idea here.
People work themselves into a healthy lather when they find out that you don't want to have a kid or want to have a different amount of children than they decided (or "decided") to have. When they can't give reasons that make sense, sometimes they react by striking out at those who may have spent some time thinking about it instead of looking into themselves for the root of their contradictions.
I think it was John Galt who said, "there is no such thing as a contradiction, only a problem with your premises".