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Originally Posted by Sultana
I would personally suggest going a year, and noting every thing that happens as if you already had a child, and alternatively, a child with the disability that you mentioned. Every holiday (it could be the mast amazing, most fun thing ever, or the kid could spend the entire time throwing up, causing you to have to cancel your pre-paid, no refund vacation plans...), every *first* (snow, swim, pickle, emergency room visit). Kinda like the "Life" game on a large scale, I suppose.
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Its rather hard to imagine something like the feeling you get when they first learn to walk, first time they say 'Daddy' (and mean it).
Anyone who knows me, knows that I will beat you down for any opinion based on emotionalism. If someone lets there emotions get into a political or environmental debate I'll make them hate me by tearing apart their illogical argument and rubbing their noses in it. In some topics, mostly those topics where the lives of millions of people are effected, emotionalism has no part.
The idea of having children is the one topic where logic has very little place. It IS all about emotions. Love isn't based on logic and having a child is about love. It is something you are NOT capable of understanding until you have one. I could rationalize having a child before I had one, but I couldn't understand it. I thought I understood, but I was wrong. I recall a friend of mine who was out of town for business saying he couldn't wait to get back to see his wife and child and it struck me as a bit odd. His kid was pretty young, he was only gone a few days, I would think he was glad to be free of his kid for a few days. Now I understand that feeling. Hell I'm going out of town for a week soon and I already know I'm going to miss my son.