While I do overall agree that this is a huge, life-changing turn, and that no one should abandon one's previous life-long commitment over a two-week old urge...People change. It's the nature of life. I can't imagine being so rigid that one shouldn't even entertain the notion that a decision that was right for a person when they were 21 is exactly the same choice that holds true 10-15 years down the road.
For the record, I am child-free, and intend to remain that way for the rest of my life. I'm not a kid-hater, though, LOL!
I would personally suggest going a year, and noting every thing that happens as if you already had a child, and alternatively, a child with the disability that you mentioned. Every holiday (it could be the mast amazing, most fun thing ever, or the kid could spend the entire time throwing up, causing you to have to cancel your pre-paid, no refund vacation plans...), every *first* (snow, swim, pickle, emergency room visit). Kinda like the "Life" game on a large scale, I suppose.
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Originally Posted by analog
*snip*...and for every parent who gives you that "you have no idea what kind of joy you get from a child" and blah blah blah bullshit... ignore it. That's not an argument for having a kid, it's an opinion of their feelings. The opinionated feelings of a parent have no business in making a real, important, permanent decision like this. Someone else liking something is not at all a compelling argument/reason to do it.
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Come ON. They're asking for input here, and the feelings of folks who have done this already is part of that input. If someone were to ask me if they should go to Europe or Egypt, I'd say, "Yeah, go for it!" because *I* went, and enjoyed it. Had good *feelings* about it, and those incalcuable intangibles are what motivates us a human beings. There were times in Egypt especially where I was sick as a dog, hotter than heck, and in great pain--yet it all came together for an unforgettable, life changing experience that I would encourage everyone to live for themselves. (Quite a promotional tourist statement for Egypt, eh?)
As Mal and later Cyn said, "It will be what you decide it will be," regardless of the externals. Heck, read my sig!