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...and for every parent who gives you that "you have no idea what kind of joy you get from a child" and blah blah blah bullshit... ignore it. That's not an argument for having a kid, it's an opinion of their feelings. The opinionated feelings of a parent have no business in making a real, important, permanent decision like this. Someone else liking something is not at all a compelling argument/reason to do it.
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You compare buying a Nintendo and getting a Tatoo as valid arguments against having a child yet those of us who have them give nothing but bullshit arguments?
What do you think having a child is, some sort of risk/reward argument that you can put on a sheet of pros and cons and come to a conclusion?
When we decided to have a child I was less than enthused, its a big change and change is scary. Once she was pregnant I got even more uncomfortable with the whole idea. Only an ass would just assume they were going to be a good parent or that they were ready for it. I'm glad I didn't take a tally sheet and try to do the math to figure out if having a child was the 'right' thing to do. My only regret is that we didn't do it sooner.
We of course know a number of childless couples, they have done their best to overthink their way out of having children, and I feel sorry for them. One of my best friends is one of these people, and its pathetic and sad seeing his wife treat their dog like a child and not being aware of the substitution.
The biological clock ticking is more than a cliche, its a truth for women, they only get so many years where they can have children, and the longer you wait the bigger the chance of problems.
There are a great number of parents who should not be parents, you can see them on any episode of cops. These people still have children because what makes them bad parents is not thinking of consequences before action. On the other hand the people not having kids ARE the ones thinking about consequences, and ironically they would be the best parents but they talk them self out of it, paralyzed by their own fears.