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No. Fucking. Way.

The "biological urges" can hit anyone, and often do- but that is absolutely no reason to suddenly go from being long-standing "99% no" to "oh wow maybe I want this".

There is no reason to succumb to the sudden onset of a temporary (and obviously not very severe) urge. That's like being in a store and having a dying urge to buy a new movie or videogame and giving in to it simply because you felt an urge to do so.

This happened only two weeks ago. That's a paltry, pathetic, and utterly dismissable period of time holding onto an urge when it contradicts up to 33 years (your age) of previously-held opinion. I had an intense, undying urge to buy a Nintendo DS Lite for like a month. That doesn't change the fact that rational thought, and the passage of some time, resolved the desires back into relative non-existance. I realized it was a passing interest that I had neither the financial or time resources with which to support such a lifestyle.

Yeah, you're kinda pulling a fairly sudden 180 on him with the baby thing. To be honest, I think most men (good men) in his position would be as supportive as he's being... having absolutely nothing to do with how completely and rigidly opposed they really are internally, and how much they're concerned you might actually want to go through with it. Being ruled by an urge is bad, yes, but allowing a sudden urge to drag down your partner, whose shared your no-kid policy since the start is just... well, very bad. The "indulge the fantasy" exercise is bullshit, by the way. It's designed to increase those urges, not "help you determine" anything. How in the hell is living out a fantasy going to help you objectively weigh anything? It's not.

Hmm, i'm wondering if I should let a girl have sex with me? I know... I'll have her get naked and gyrate/move in front of me to recreate the "fantasy" of the sex act, and then I can make an objective decision on whether or not that's something i'd like. [/sarcasm] I'm sure your therapist is very knowledgable and all that, but this method is very suspect, and psychologists in general have tons of differing opinions on how to treat things. Of course you're slipping into "let's do it", you're hyping yourself up into it!

I have a 6-month rule about tattoos... I won't get anything inked on me for at least 6 months after I finalize the idea for it... but you're thinking of having a kid... being impregnated, birthing, and raising a child for the rest of your life, based on an urge and two dreams over the course of 2 weeks? No. No no no.

If nothing else, consider the financial aspect. Think to yourself... IF you were to ever want a kid... would you really want to do it without predictable income? I mean, all exacting measurements of financial status aside, unpredictable income can cause any money-status, good or bad, to suddenly deteriorate quickly. There's also the genetics issue of having a child (forbid it) with a serious health issue.

Give it more time. Think about it longer. A lot longer. Give it several months. You will almost definitely come out of this urge and wonder what the hell you were thinking. lol... Or, who knows. The point is, 2 weeks and a couple of dreams should not cause you to ignore your previous, strong, long-standing opinions on having a kid. You had those dreams because you thought about being a mom. It's not a cosmic push or deity-induced "vision" of your life's new mission. Don't give in.

...and for every parent who gives you that "you have no idea what kind of joy you get from a child" and blah blah blah bullshit... ignore it. That's not an argument for having a kid, it's an opinion of their feelings. The opinionated feelings of a parent have no business in making a real, important, permanent decision like this. Someone else liking something is not at all a compelling argument/reason to do it.

Good luck.