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Originally Posted by Crack
It all depends on your relationship with your guy friend, are you ready to lose him as a friend, if so, then go for it.
If you really wanted to do the right thing, talk to HIM, not her first, there is a right way and a wrong way about doing things like this, and taking a friends girlfriend is (for me) out of the question.
Worse case, you lose him as a friend, and keep her as only a distant friend, because if she does not like you romanticaly and she will become very distant and begin to move herself from your sphear of infulance, can you deal with that?
Best case, you keep your buddy, because you told him first, and you did the right thing, and you get a awesome relationship started with a girl you know you like from the start.
The only real advice I can give you is be a man, talk to your friend, and don't ruin any relationship, reguardless of if it's gonna end on it's own or not.
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That's good advice. I guess I really didn't clarify enough in my post, but I don't think our friendship is threatened by this at all. We're good enough friends and the type of friends that wouldn't be compromised for something like this. If it was his serious girlfriend, then yes, I wouldn't tell her and I would move the fuck on. The only reason I am entertaining the prospect at all is because they are only friends where she is the one attracted to him. He only likes her as a friend and has told her he doesn't want to have a relationship.
While I'd still talk to him first, I don't really consider it an issue because of that fact. I'm not too worried about ruining their relationship because the girl in question is kidding herself if their relationship will ever get past two friends who make out when drunk.