Originally Posted by Ustwo

As a very recent non-parent, now parent, hearing from a non-parent about reproduction is like hearing from a virgin about sex. Lots of opinions but no possible away of understanding what its really like. To me it sounds like you are looking for a reason NOT to have kids and there are reasons not to.

Reasons not to..
1 - I never knew how much freedom I had to do things until I didn't have it.
2 - Money.
3 - Worry. I worry about myself, I worry about my wife, but its nothing compared to the worry I have that something bad will happen to my child.

Those are about it. Kids will cost you money and time if you are a good parent, and will cause you endless worry.

Reasons to have a kid.......

Well first a question. Can you explain how good an orgasm feels like to someone who never had one? I know I couldn't. Likewise I can't explain the total joy a child brings into our lives. Its been amazing, its been the 'completing' moment of our already wonderful marriage.

Sometimes I wish we had more local babysitting, but beyond that I could not imaging going back to where we were three years ago.