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Originally Posted by lurkette
So...parents and especially NON-parents, we'd love to have your advice and input, preferably on how we should make up our minds than on whether we should or shouldn't do it. So: help the lurkbastids make up their minds!
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As a very recent non-parent, now parent, hearing from a non-parent about reproduction is like hearing from a virgin about sex. Lots of opinions but no possible away of understanding what its really like. To me it sounds like you are looking for a reason NOT to have kids and there are reasons not to.
Reasons not to..
1 - I never knew how much freedom I had to do things until I didn't have it.
2 - Money.
3 - Worry. I worry about myself, I worry about my wife, but its nothing compared to the worry I have that something bad will happen to my child.
Those are about it. Kids will cost you money and time if you are a good parent, and will cause you endless worry.
Reasons to have a kid.......
Well first a question. Can you explain how good an orgasm feels like to someone who never had one? I know I couldn't. Likewise I can't explain the total joy a child brings into our lives. Its been amazing, its been the 'completing' moment of our already wonderful marriage.
Sometimes I wish we had more local babysitting, but beyond that I could not imaging going back to where we were three years ago.