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I see two major warning signs here and they've both been covered, but again for emphasis:
This is not something to compromise on, for one. Ratbastid absolutely has to be behind this idea for himself. It can't be something he does for you; otherwise children will put a strain on your relationship and drive a wedge between the two of you. You say you don't want to resent the child for not really wanting it in the first place. Ratbastid is definitely headed in that direction.
Second, you need to be very careful about the hypohidrotic ectodermal dysplasia. The optimistic side to it is that if a child borne by you has a 25% chance of having it, it means he has a 75% chance of not having it. However, that only applies if you're ready for the 25% chance. You need to be prepared for that possibility and the effect it will have on your and your child's life. If you don't feel like you can handle it, wait on having children until you can. It may result in never having children, but if so that's a more responsible choice to make than ending up with a son who has it and not having the will or stamina to deal with the issue.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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