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Moms that Compete
My Mom is in her 50s and had me very young. I just turned 30 and I feel pretty good about my life so far. She always treated me like a sibling, or a gal pal. She's very good-looking for her age, and appears much younger than she is. One would think that she would be confident about her life, or secure in herself.
The problem is that she is always trying to undermine what ever I am doing by telling me it won't work,or how I am doing it all wrong for her taste. She shares her negative opinions about my love life, body, and my goals whether or not I ask her to. She disapproves of every friend or lover that I aquire, and she dooms my future to more failure unless I follow in her precise footsteps every step of the way. She thinks everything she does is perfect and she is without reproach in every way. She tells me her private information about men in her life, telling me that only she knows what men want or need.I am not as clueless as she thinks. I think I am quite successful, generally and sex-savvy. Teling her this invites only more criticizm. I feel like I'm being bombarded.
How do I handle her, or should I just give up?
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