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Hubby and I originally wanted 2 children. After we had one we decided we did not want any more. We THOROUGHLY enjoy the one that we have. I can see that we would stress more than enjoy a second one.
Any goal can still be met even with kids in the picture. Even for a mother. The joy of nuturing an infant is something that no one can completely comprehend until they have their own.
Adoption is not a complete waste. Hubby and his sister (I realize this was years ago but still) were both given up for adoption at birth and he actually went home with his adoptive parents from the hospital. I can happen and in that case you do not have all those same problems.
With the disease/condition that you carry. I do not understand it completely. It actually sounds like my family to a great degree but we were told we simply had immune problems, asthma and anadontia. My brother has nearly no adult teeth and my Dad has developed a Lupus type of immune disorder. Both of my parents were carriers and though it's given us a few hiccups it's not been bad. The condition sounds like there can be many varying degrees of affliction. What is the likelyhood that it would be extremely life altering for a child? How often does it get bad enough to be a big problem? I think that is the question. So many people nowadays are carriers of things but they still succeed in having healthy children.
Keep thinking about it and don't worry about knowing for sure in even less than 6 mo - a year. When I wanted to get my tubes tied the insurance company made me wait 60 days before they'd approve to be sure I KNEW I wanted to do it. Good Luck.
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