Thank you all for your wonderful advice and personal stories. You have helped enforce my understanding how complex and difficult this issue can be. The advice ranges from "get snipped now!!!" to "your feelings could change, so wait a while before getting snipped".
Based on your suggestions, and my own feelings about this, I will continue to stand firm on my decision, and try to be more understanding about my wife's feelings. I think many of you are right when you say my wife is having trouble dealing with the finality of childbirth. I think addict/junkie might be too strong, but there are some psychological or hormonal obstacles that she has to overcome. I will continue to rationalize with her why we should stop, although being rational does not always overcome matters of the heart. I also know that as long as I veto this idea, I will win by stalemate. However, I would rather try to convince my wife to share my point of view.
By the way, I actually did have a vascectomy scheduled twice, but both times I had to cancel due to uncontrolled circumstances (an emergency business trip and my father's death). In fact, my wife made the appointments for me!!!! This was before the whole 5th baby yearning. How ironic!
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