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I don't believe that you are trying to cut him out of the picture at all, that's why i thanked you for clarifying your earlier post.
The first thing you need to address is the inability to communicate with him, if that means you two have to go to mediation, then that's what has to happen. If he's unwilling to do mediation then it's time to take the next step which is:
You need to go back to court and get a very detailed visitation agreement hammered out. It needs to specifically state what days he has her, and between what times. When you do this, then you will be able to stop rearranging your life to meet his schedule, because the visitation schedule will be very clear. If he decides he's not coming, he misses the visit. If he shows up unexpectedly....tough shit, he doesn't get the visit unless it's on the schedule.
in the meantime, it sounds as if your daughter may have some issues surrounding the divorce that she needs some help with. i don't care if she talks to grandma (if grandma can put aside her own feelings about the situation), the counselor at school, or the friggin pizza guy that lives down the street....but she needs to be talking about this stuff to a neutral party.
I'm a full time single Dad of a 12 y.o. girl and a 10 y.o. boy. There mom hasn't spoken to the kids in 8 or so years now....i read stuff like this and I'm grateful that I don't have to go through that.
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