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One thing you have to keep in mind with the couch, drinks, and television is that you are hearing this second hand, and it might not be as bad as your daughter portrays it to be.
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This is exactly what I was going to start off on. Gosh, just maybe she's not getting her way and doesn't like his rules.
He's her father, you can't deny him access. Yes, 4 weeks out of 52 isn't an awful long time to build a father / daughter relationship especially the type that you envisage or have with your daughter. Personally, I think you should be encouraging her to spend time or at least involve him in her life.
If he doesn't call on a Sunday, do you suggest to your daughter to call him? If she does something special at school, why not encourage her to call and tell him. Who knows, he could be really touched that she's thought to make the effort. It's not a one way street and he doesn't have ESP.
Do you spend 24/7 entertaining your daughter? He obviously has work responsibilities as I assume you do too, and he can't put that on hold just for your daughter.
I'm sorry, to me it just seems like you're not looking at the whole picture and then again I only know the smallest snippet. But put the shoe on the other foot. There are lots of single parents out there that just because they're not the sole provider for that child, doesn't mean they don't love and want to be a valuable influence on that child.