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Frosstbyte · 06-22-2006, 02:08 PM

Even after your epilogue, analog had it right with the first reply. Nothing has changed. She had you as a back up, the other guy didn't work out, you're still there as a back up.

People leave relationships for two reasons:
1) the opportunity cost of staying in the relationship is too high, i.e. the relationship is so bad that not being in a relationship is a better option
2) there's a better relationship available

This girl sounds clingy and manipulative and it's hard to be clingy and manipulative if you don't have a person to cling to, so she will never pick 1. That means SHE is only going to break it off when she has a sure thing available with someone she perceives as a better alternative to you. In this case, he didn't end up being better and she had a convenient excuse to get rid of him, so to speak.

A girl who acts like that is a girl who knows she has her claws in you and is free to peruse the menu at her leisure. I use "girl" here only because we're talking about a girl, but it could be easily generalized to any person. You're convenient, you're hooked, so if things don't work out, she's always got you. That doesn't mean she doesn't have her eyes looking elsewhere.

There's a reason everyone in this thread besides you has said to ditch her and find someone else. It's because she's no good. You got lucky. You didn't get burned this time, you will next time.

06-22-2006, 02:08 PM	#24 (permalink)
Frosstbyte Winter is Coming Location: The North	Even after your epilogue, analog had it right with the first reply. Nothing has changed. She had you as a back up, the other guy didn't work out, you're still there as a back up. People leave relationships for two reasons: 1) the opportunity cost of staying in the relationship is too high, i.e. the relationship is so bad that not being in a relationship is a better option 2) there's a better relationship available This girl sounds clingy and manipulative and it's hard to be clingy and manipulative if you don't have a person to cling to, so she will never pick 1. That means SHE is only going to break it off when she has a sure thing available with someone she perceives as a better alternative to you. In this case, he didn't end up being better and she had a convenient excuse to get rid of him, so to speak. A girl who acts like that is a girl who knows she has her claws in you and is free to peruse the menu at her leisure. I use "girl" here only because we're talking about a girl, but it could be easily generalized to any person. You're convenient, you're hooked, so if things don't work out, she's always got you. That doesn't mean she doesn't have her eyes looking elsewhere. There's a reason everyone in this thread besides you has said to ditch her and find someone else. It's because she's no good. You got lucky. You didn't get burned this time, you will next time. Last edited by Frosstbyte; 06-23-2006 at 07:59 AM..