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i dated this super sweet stagehand for three months, then dumped him and went with a former SO. Except the super sweet guy didn't process that i had broken up with him, called me a cheat, and went on to destroy his life with alcoholism. i tried very hard to patch things up, to try and be friends or reach out to him somehow that would convince him to stop drinking and start living. he misinterpreted things, thought i was interested in a relationship, and raped me to try and show me that he was a tough "manly man". needless to say, it didn't work. i felt horrible for messing with his mind, and still do. probably always will. i know i've mentioned this elsewhere on the board. oh well. a year later, no news on how the alcoholic is healing. still dealing with the scars myself.
lesson learned: don't tell someone you love them when you might be interested in someone else. and don't throw yourself into denial over an existing relationship when you think the love might not be reciprocated.
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"Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq
"violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy
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