abaya

Yeah, Maximus is a brand of lube. We got it at Toys in Babeland (now known as Babeland, I think), but you could probably find it online somewhere.

There are a few other threads about this, with more helpful tips... but I'll say that the best preparation is probably no preparation, other than her suggesting the idea first. My bf never, ever asked me to have anal; I knew that he wouldn't mind trying it out, but he didn't ask. Which meant a lot to me.

Finally, one night, I just up and asked him if he'd be interested (I think he'd been rimming me for awhile)... of course he was. So we basically used a progression of fingers/smaller dildos, with increasing amounts of lube, to the point where I thought I'd be comfortable with his penis. I didn't clean myself out or anything (though he prefers to do that, if I am going to use a dildo on him), mostly because I am known to have a squeaky clean colon. But I think I would have been more tense if I had cleaned myself out... just the whole fear/expectation thing building up. It was better to just take it gradually, and he kept asking me how I was doing every other minute, which I appreciated. The whole thing was very slow and non-pressured.

That said, the first time (and probably next 5 times) were NOT comfortable. I did not like it, at all. Finally, one night after getting noticeable tipsy, I suggested anal again... this time, he paid attention to my clit (it had been a bit ignored before), which, along with the tipsiness, greatly enhanced my pleasure. It's gotten easier and easier since then, though of course I don't recommend being full-on drunk or anything. Just whatever it takes to relax a bit and not be afraid.

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