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I wanted to add that, as a woman, my comfort with the idea of anal sex improved GREATLY once I asked my boyfriend to go through with it first (e.g. me using a dildo on him).

I was not about to go along with a double standard, and would not let him put such a large object in my ass if he didn't know how it felt, first. There is no way I would have done anal without reciprocity on his part... it's just not fair, otherwise.

That said, from the time we started having vaginal sex, to the time we actually had anal sex, took just over a year. During that time there was a lot of finger and tongue play, as well as trying different-sized dildos (for both of us, of course). Lots of lube, of course; we recommend Maximus for anal. Basically, take as long as it needs to take... just relax and get used to each other.

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