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Questioning and reevaluating your sexuality is both normal and healthy. There's nothing wrong with noticing other guys, and that doesn't mean you're gay. It's more important to recognize that not only is there nothing wrong with it, it's a healthy and natural response. Even if you never choose to act on it, and you might not, it's better to accept it as a part of who you are rather than try to repress it to make yourself "normal".
I spent most of my sexually active years questioning my sexuality. I've always been more attracted to women than to men, but for a very long time tried to deny and repress that part of me to prove to myself and to others that I was straight and normal. The classic term for this is "overcompensation", and I overcompensated all over the place in all kinds of ways. I had three steady boyfriends in college, and it wasn't until I'd gotten past the idea that there was something wrong with my being attracted to other women.
It took me until I was in my mid twenties, after 15 years of sexual activity to figure out that I was essentially homosexual with just a bit of heterosexuality added in for flavor. In other words, I'm a lesbian, but that doesn't preclude me from recognizing that Pierce Brosnan and Jimmy Smits are smokin' hot.
So long as nobody is getting unwillingly hurt, there is no right or wrong in human sexuality, it just is what it is. Accept that you are normal and that the way you feel is normal and healthy, because it is.
Gilda
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