How much mental control do you have?
Mmmm. It's hard to say, as this is a somewhat vague question. I'm an emotional person and don't really seek to control my emotions so much as control my actions to the degree that they are appropriate to the situation. A few days ago a guy took a picture of me without asking first which brought on a flood of nearly overwhelming emotions, but I did manage to control my actions well enough not to make the situation worse than it already was. The boy in question had no way of knowing I have a phobia regarding having my picture taken, though it was a bit rude of him to have taken me by surprise rather than asking. I removed myself from the situation, and sought the nearest source of help to help me deal with how I was feeling. Did I control my feelings? No, and I don't really want to do that, as "control" in my experience has always meant "repress", which has never been good for me. I did control my actions, though, which is more important.
And how important is it to you?
Controlling my actions is important to me. So is accepting my feelings for what they are rather than trying to repress genuine reactions. I'm much more successful at the former than the latter.
Gilda
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