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Originally Posted by Poppinjay
Different strokes for different folks. I don't think I would have been able to keep up a charade of fiscal responsibility for six years of dating.
I can't help but wonder, did you love him?
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Still do love him, and am trying to help him get on his feet financially before he goes out on his own again. However, in this case, I don't think he'll learn from his mistakes, even though I hope against hope that he does. I'm not willing to bet the rest of my life on that, though.
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Originally Posted by abaya
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As for finding out finances, neatness, etc habits... well, it doesn't take much to bring up those topics in a deep and serious conversation, or to simply observe someone's habits over the period of a year or two. I consider myself a very observative, inquisitive, analytical, nosy, and downright intense person, and anyone who has put up with my scrutiny of every aspect of their life for two years (and still loves me) is going to be hard-pressed to shock me with any insane, crazy lifestyle habits once we move in together.  (Talkin' bout my beloved boyfriend.)  |
abaya, I agree, it doesn't take much to bring up the topics, but it does take honesty going both ways (which it wasn't). Observing his habits is all well and good, and I did, but he hid a lot of stuff/purchases, and I've found things, even in the last couple weeks that were hidden.