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Originally Posted by Poppinjay
From my point of view, moving in at any time is crazy. I was exactly where you are before getting married. I liked my place, I liked being able to go get a paper and coffee every saturday morning, or being able to sit out on my balcony and generally be free.
I also loved my future wife and we moved in together an hour after getting married. Not one second before.
I have never understood what (barring obstacles such as finances or relocation) the whole appeal of co-habitation is. Is it the reduction of space? Is it the joy of having to be considerate of another person's concerns without any binding ties? Is it the handing your nuts over in a change purse?
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Poppinjay, thanks for this post. Very honest and helpful, I think... and points out that even though it's nice to have your own space, if you really love someone, it all goes out the window! I have no problem with never living together before getting married; in fact, I prefer it. Then again, I also don't begrudge people who choose to live together beforehand, but I don't see much of a need for it.
As for finding out finances, neatness, etc habits... well, it doesn't take much to bring up those topics in a deep and serious conversation, or to simply observe someone's habits over the period of a year or two. I consider myself a very observative, inquisitive, analytical, nosy, and downright intense person, and anyone who has put up with my scrutiny of every aspect of their life for two years (and still loves me) is going to be hard-pressed to shock me with any insane, crazy lifestyle habits once we move in together.
(Talkin' bout my beloved boyfriend.)
