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Originally Posted by ratbastid
Stop going to those websites. They just cause trouble. You don't really want to be a player, do you? You want to be the good, honest, up-front guy that every girl wants to bang and then marry. Right? So put down the "strategy" and start being yourself. That's the only dating advice anybody really needs.
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Yes, although being myself added with a little zesty cocky + funny helps a great deal with my female acquantanceships
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Originally Posted by BigBen
Those rules are going to fuck up our generation like Thalidomide.
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Nah, just no more Mr. Nice Guys for the women. No more Mr. Pushovers.
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Originally Posted by monkeysugar
but I've been in those "grey zone" relationship/friendships (are you together, are you not, etc.) more than enough times and personally that's all I can see happening if anything from what you've posted. Been there, done that, would rather take a brick to the head before going through any of that bullshit again.
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I guess that's why the guys advised me to put it clearly on the table sooner in the future... to avoid this 'grey' zone :/
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Originally Posted by monkeysugar
I know you like this girl right now, but I challenge you to ask yourself what you are looking for in a relationship, and what you aren't. To simplify this, what's going to make it work for you?
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Humm. I am looking for physical intimacy, none of which she is going to give :/
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Originally Posted by monkeysugar
Are you willing to always have to call, always make the move, always make all the effort?
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Nope, I hate this. Having to put in all the work, all the effort, really really sucks.
*In fact*, she told me straight up that she *expects* the guy to do all the work! Well, she said it casually once, but the next time I brought it up she said she was only joking... but clearly she is not kidding, from everything else she told me.
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Originally Posted by monkeysugar
Do you really have feelings for this girl, or do you like her because you guys get along and have hung out a little bit?
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Hmm.. we get along pretty well, I think I started liking this girl more and more only because she's the first girl that whenever we hang out we just keep going. like, for hours and hours on end.
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Originally Posted by monkeysugar
Does that actually sound like a relationship you would want to be in? I know, it's really not like that. This girl's different. This situation is different. I know. I've been there. Keep your options open.
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Thanks, I know what you mean by "This girl's different... Keep your options open". The first girl I liked liked, about half a year ago (which I posted a thread about), really did hurt alot to let go. But, this second girl, who I feel is
much better than the first girl, is somehow much easier for me to let go. I think its the combo of the first experience plus the fact it can't really work out (cause I'm leaving for grad school), plus there is already a guy #1 who is already present..
Oh yeah. She also didn't like whispering in public or private. She literally said "it's too intimate."
pretty crazy now that i think about it...