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Originally Posted by Infinite_Loser
I just want to re-iterate that I do love spending time with my girlfriend and there are times of the day where I do miss her and wish she were around. However, I don't want her around ALL of the time (If that makes any sense). I like my space. I like being able to take a break from her now and then (Especially when she starts to royally piss me off). I like having my friends over. Those aren't things which I want to give up just yet (Partly selfish, yes, but I don't care).
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There's nothing wrong with wanting your own space or having your friends over. Absolutely nothing wrong with either one of those, and the fact that you think it's even partly selfish says to me that you don't have enough self confidence, and don't know who you really are yet.
You are an individual. She is an individual. The two of you are in a relationship. However, you
MUST NOT lose your identity just because you're in a relationship. This is also from experience: she was attracted to you originally as you were, as an individual, not as her boyfriend. Yes, people grow and change, but losing your identity completely is not growing or changing in a positive way. In all of the strongest couples I know, they each have their own hobbies, interests, and identities. They work well together, and they don't say "No, I don't want your friends coming over at all."