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Originally Posted by Acetylene
You 're not ready. End of story.
She's trying to find out if you want to marry her, something not surprising after 2 years. And since you don't want to live with her, odds are you don't want to marry her either. Don't be surprised if she wants to move on to someone else in the hopes of finding a husband, though--if she wants to get married, and you don't, it's doomed.
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That sums it up nicely.
Just a little personal story to go along with it (wouldn't be me if I didn't put my two cents in
)... my boyfriend and I were together for 5 years, and I spent most every weekend at his place for most of those years. I was living at my mom's house, and my way of paying rent was by going to school, so the idea of living together on our own wasn't financially an option in my mind. When I finished school, I moved across the country, and 10 months later, he joined me. Things were great for those five years when we weren't living together.
When we moved in together, things changed! I found all the financial problems he had, the little things that were okay when he was at HIS place weren't quite as okay when in OUR place. He also made up his mind (after waffling for years) that he does not want to get married again, or have any more kids. However, I do.
Bottom line: don't expect her to change, and she shouldn't expect you to change. If you're not happy not living together, you both will probably be even more unhappy living together. It will end things faster, but more painfully as well, since there will be moving and dividing of property involved.
Good luck, and let us know how things work out. =)