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abaya · 06-04-2006, 07:29 PM

So, how much did YOUR wedding cost? And what did it look like? And was it truly, truly worth that price you paid (in time, relational stress, AND money)?

I ask because ktspktsp and I might be getting married soon.

But I'm sure most of you aren't too surprised about that... kinda been in the works for a while.

We are just trying to put a little something together for later this summer, and I mean a LITTLE something... we're talking minimalist, here. But it seems impossible. Since when does every couple have to go all-out and spend $10,000 (unless you have a ton of friends who are all DJ's, photographers, have a nice yard, etc)... which we don't have, since we live in Pennsylvania and are trying to have a wedding in Seattle, WA.

So it's either spend your life savings, or you have to go to the courthouse with some friends, pay $60, and it's done. Isn't there a happy medium?

We are talking $5000 or less for the whole deal (not including dress/rings). Are we out of our minds? Someone tell me that you had a really nice summer wedding for a few thousand bucks, please? And tell me how you did it! (Especially with just 2-3 months to plan.) Maybe I AM crazy...

We just have serious ethical issues with spending more than $5000 (MAX) for one day of our lives. (Yes, it's important, but the decades of commitment AFTER that day are far more important.)

We basically want a little somethin'-somethin' nice, and that doesn't require too much planning. We want music, a photographer, some flowers, and alcohol. And our small group of people (50 guests, max) around to celebrate with. And I guess we have to send out invitations, but I'd almost rather order them at Costco and have people e-mail RSVP or something. I mean, who really cares what the invites look like, in the end?

I guess I am a little fed up with the whole wedding industry.

Sure, I'd like to have a fancy, decked-out wedding... but not at the required pricetag, and not with the required 12 months of planning and stressing over what color the dog's bowtie will be. Give me something beautiful and simple!!

06-04-2006, 07:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	Your wedding cost? So, how much did YOUR wedding cost? And what did it look like? And was it truly, truly worth that price you paid (in time, relational stress, AND money)? I ask because ktspktsp and I might be getting married soon. But I'm sure most of you aren't too surprised about that... kinda been in the works for a while. We are just trying to put a little something together for later this summer, and I mean a LITTLE something... we're talking minimalist, here. But it seems impossible. Since when does every couple have to go all-out and spend $10,000 (unless you have a ton of friends who are all DJ's, photographers, have a nice yard, etc)... which we don't have, since we live in Pennsylvania and are trying to have a wedding in Seattle, WA. So it's either spend your life savings, or you have to go to the courthouse with some friends, pay $60, and it's done. Isn't there a happy medium? We are talking $5000 or less for the whole deal (not including dress/rings). Are we out of our minds? Someone tell me that you had a really nice summer wedding for a few thousand bucks, please? And tell me how you did it! (Especially with just 2-3 months to plan.) Maybe I AM crazy... We just have serious ethical issues with spending more than $5000 (MAX) for one day of our lives. (Yes, it's important, but the decades of commitment AFTER that day are far more important.) We basically want a little somethin'-somethin' nice, and that doesn't require too much planning. We want music, a photographer, some flowers, and alcohol. And our small group of people (50 guests, max) around to celebrate with. And I guess we have to send out invitations, but I'd almost rather order them at Costco and have people e-mail RSVP or something. I mean, who really cares what the invites look like, in the end? I guess I am a little fed up with the whole wedding industry. Sure, I'd like to have a fancy, decked-out wedding... but not at the required pricetag, and not with the required 12 months of planning and stressing over what color the dog's bowtie will be. Give me something beautiful and simple!! __________________ And think not you can direct the course of Love; for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. --Khalil Gibran Last edited by abaya; 06-04-2006 at 07:42 PM..