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Tilted Cat Head
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Originally Posted by Toaster126
I think that is completely wrong.
As far as the OP goes, it fails in some areas that others have mentioned, but the premise that a vast majority of people are responsible for their own unhappiness is true. It takes balls to say that, especially on a forum like this with some professional whiners and complainers. I respect that a lot.
That being said, one can be candid and take a stand without being an asshole and alienating themselves from those they wish to address. If you push all the buttons at the same time, people who have some investment in what you are trying to discuss as wrong won't discuss the OP, they will start arguing with you (especially if what you are saying verges on hypocrisy) and turning the focus in a different direction. And yes, there is a difference.
I'm not sure if some people need some perspective or just someone giving them some tough love, but seriously, some people just need to shut the fuck up about their "problems" and actually go do something about them.
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If the How to overcome shyness and low self esteem? thread was titled If you are shy or have low self esteem, you're a loser. it would get this same kind of response which is what my point of stating what is JinnKai's reasons for the vitrolic thread titles. He spent so much time crafting the body, but little time with the title which is what colors and flavors the OP like an appetizer to an entree. It either compliments or it juxtapositions. Sometimes the juxtaposition makes for an interesting combination, but when it's something that alienates instead of unites, then it does disservice to the thread reader and the community at large.
I'd also like to add that your sig "If you struggle with something all your life you ARE NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH." also shows this same lack of simple logic.
If I try to run a sub 4 minute mile and cannot just because I have never been able to and I exert every muscle that I can and do everything that I can, my ASTHMA can stop me from doing it at all. It doesn't mean anything less than it being impossible for me to expect to achieve that NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY.
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Last edited by Cynthetiq; 06-03-2006 at 09:07 PM..
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