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I totally see where you are comming from JinnKai. I too have to deal with people who are un-motivated. Sometimes the best I can do is let them go. However, I've been there just as you have. I was never depressed but there was a point in my life where I lacked willpower and vision. Everyone has their time.
Your post is great but how does it help people? Obviously you can't go up to a depressed person and say "you are a failure, become responcible for your actions" and have it be all better. I am sure you are aware of negative re-enforncement; where people become entrenched in their poor values and beliefs because everyone confirms it for them.
It's intresting that you've mentioned alcohol because emotions are very much like a drug. It's been shown that people become dependant on them. Especially negative ones.
Personally I think people are much more motivated by carrot then by stick. I would love to hear about how you overcame your depression. What triggered the change, how long it took, what books are worth reading and what challenges you faced allong the way? Yes, that would be something.
Best of luck with these people who you care for.
Cheers.
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