Again you are trying to assert your control over things you cannot control, your emotions and feelings are just something that exists. You however feel that you can control them and the behaviors of others vis a vie declartive threads denoucing someone's being and right to feel and be the way that they are.
Failure is a subjective term as is success. What is success for you isn't the same as for someone else.
There's something simple that I've learned early on the path that I am now on:
If you spot it, you got it.
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Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
Do you fear criticism?
Do you overextend yourself?
Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?
Do you have a need for perfection?
Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
Do you isolate yourself from other people?
Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and/or abusive?
Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
Do you often mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
Do you think someone's drinking may have affected you?
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Based on the above Ala-non criteria above I bolded in yellow based on your previous threads and the declaration you've stated that your father is an alcoholic, I'd say you need to talk to someone within the Alanon organization.
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