choice OR no choice
I am a lesbian, and have been one since I was 14 years old. But only recently have I been able to accept it. I spent 10 years (I am now 24) trying to pretend that I liked men, that I was attracted to them, that I wanted to be married to one. I have spent 5 years in church, praying for my feelings to change, go away, anything. 10 years is a long time to pretend you are something that you are not. And nothing changed. I still like women in every way I am supposed to like men.
Now I heard all types of things from all types of people. One of the being that people have a choice and can wake up and say "You know what? I am not going to be gay today."
After 10 years, I can't say that I believe that. I have many gay/bi/les friends, 80% of them have spent more than 4 years trying to change themselves in vain. We have all come to agree with one statement: You can choose who you have sex with, but you don't get to pick the people you fall in love with.
With that said I would like to know what you think. I don't care if you are GLBT or not. Share your thoughts.
Do you think people are born gay/bi/les or that they make that choice later in life?
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