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Women do have testosterone and it fluctuates just like in men. It controls sexual response for one thing. But I digress.

I agree with the whole exercise thing. I don't like exercising either, but it does significantly help with mood. Mood has a lot to do with self-esteem. If you're depressed a lot, then chances are your self-esteem is low. And I don't mean only clinical depression. Even if you just have the "doldrums" your self-esteem will suffer.

So don't be afraid to exercise ... you don't have to jog or lift-weights or any traditional method of exercise. Go to a park with a couple of friends and swing (you know what I mean, , on the swing sets) ... play on the monkey bars.

Shyness on the other hand is something that you have to get control of. I got over my shyness and inability to talk in front of people (or even one-on-one in some situations) by nude modelling for life-drawing classes for one semester. I was shaking uncontrollably before I dropped my robe and climbed up onto the "stage."

It worked to some extent ... I used to have terrible stage fright before that, despite being in bands and orchestras on stage. Playing an instrument and singing is one thing ... talking to people is another. I still have some trouble talking in groups, but I can do it with no visible distress.

I'm not saying that you should do nude modelling ... but you definitely need to put yourself in a situation where you can practice being in front of people. Practice. A lot ...

There is no overnight miracle cure as I'm sure you're aware.