Realistically it doesn't sound like you need to do any forgiving if things have happened as you describe them; what this "other" person is doing is very near the edge of legality -- stalking and harassment come to mind. If the comments persist after this reminder, you might remind that person of this fact.
On forgiving, however, I have two tidbits:
Forgiving does
NOT mean condoning. Forgiving someone for a transgression against you does NOT mean you have to say that what they did was "OKAY."
Forgiveness is simply deciding that whatever they did to you is no longer worth thinking about. You don't even have to tell them that you've forgiven them -- it's all about putting control back in YOUR field and not theirs.
FORGIVING DOES NOT MEAN CONDONING.
And despite being atheist/agnostic, the Lord's Prayer has always had a message that I approve of:
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Originally Posted by Lord's Prayer
Our Father which art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive them that trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation. But deliver us from evil. Amen.
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I think it's a very good idea for everyone to stop once a day and remind themselves to forgive those who trespass against them, as well as ask forgiveness from those who we've hurt.