When you forgive somebody, it's as much for your benefit as for theirs. Actually, more.
If you dwell on what they did to you and your rage about it, then the hurt can never heal. It's as if they're still hurting you; and it'll go on and on. If you let go, then you can let go of the hurt, too, and move on. That's a lot easier said than done -- but it's true.
Forgiving somebody, of course, doesn't mean trusting them or their judgment or wanting to continue to associate with them. You may agree to let bygones be bygones -- but that doesn't mean you're not supposed to learn from the past. If somebody owes you money and reneges, you can forgive them -- but that doesn't mean you're ever going to loan them money again!
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