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I've been contemplating a theory for a while now, which is made up of scientific and historical facts we've accepted.
1. The male gender belong in a group of mammals where our DNA makes us non-monogamous by nature. This is a scientific fact when DNA research was done on monogamous and polygamous apes.
2. Monogamy is an evolution of the civilised society. Many cultures have practiced and encouraged multiple partners in the past. And the higher the status you are in society, the more partners you are allowed to have. Think emperor of China.
3. Historically, relationships are formed for procreation like in the animal kingdom. And in that kingdom, only the dominant male gets to procreate. In the modern world, relationships are also for companionship, hence we talk about compatibility in almost all areas, including common interests, family backgrounds etc
We are a product of evolution of a civilised society and gender equality, where all our rules are man-made and nothing is natural. In the natural world, only the dominant males will get to have sex and form relationships. Hence, Sharon's theory of "The One" to multiple partners is in fact very real.
In the modern society, "The One" is a myth. Almost no one is "The One" to anyone forever. Eventually, it comes down to self-discipline and commitment.
And please don't patronize me for my obviously-blatant gender bias in the theory. I do not subscribe in the old ways but I didn't live in those ages.
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