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aceventura3 · 05-26-2006, 07:54 AM

First- I think I overreacted. Blowing off steam here was better than talking to my wife when I am overreacting. Again, thanks for your help.

Please understand that before my wife, I dated some women who where on yo-yo diets. I was tired of the mood swings, depressions over gaining a pound or two, the binge eating, them trying to tell me what to eat, etc. When I dated my wife she was normal about food and I told her that was one of the things I loved about her. I told her that I enjoy food and that I would never be interested in eleminating the foods I enjoy (I eat what I want, but I don't over eat).

I have a freind - his wife went on the "Atkins" diet about 4 years ago. She stopped eating, bread, pasta, pizza, sweets and basically anything with flavor. She lost about 20 pounds, they got seperated. He said she hated him when he would eat regular food in front of her, and that she lost her energy, and all she talked about was the diet and the color of the stips she used to determine how she was doing. Today she has gained back the weight and is almost back to eating normally, they never divorced and may get back together.

Anyway, I did talk to my wife. First she said she simply tried on of the "Boca Burgers" at a resaurant and liked it. When I asked about the "Bac-os Bits" she admitted that she was trying to loose a little weight and wanted to try the "Bac-os Bits" on salads. I reminded her of our friend and my past experiences. She said I did not have anything to worry about, that she would never go that far. After more talk about loosing weight we agreed to take a 1/2 hour walk after dinner every day.

Then I told her about the article I read and ask if she was having an affair or thinking about one. She said no. And she said she had read several articles on the subject. She kind of sarcastically asked if I was going to be more observant. I thought that was a cheap shot. But she said she was thinking about changing her hair color and cutting her hair short. I am very happy we talked before she did that. I like her hair color and her hair length. Then I asked why she wanted to make all these changes since I like her the way she is . She never really answered the question in a way I could understand. I think she is going through some kind of "mid-life" thing. I think I will have to help her through this.

05-26-2006, 07:54 AM	#36 (permalink)
aceventura3 Junkie Location: Ventura County	First- I think I overreacted. Blowing off steam here was better than talking to my wife when I am overreacting. Again, thanks for your help. Please understand that before my wife, I dated some women who where on yo-yo diets. I was tired of the mood swings, depressions over gaining a pound or two, the binge eating, them trying to tell me what to eat, etc. When I dated my wife she was normal about food and I told her that was one of the things I loved about her. I told her that I enjoy food and that I would never be interested in eleminating the foods I enjoy (I eat what I want, but I don't over eat). I have a freind - his wife went on the "Atkins" diet about 4 years ago. She stopped eating, bread, pasta, pizza, sweets and basically anything with flavor. She lost about 20 pounds, they got seperated. He said she hated him when he would eat regular food in front of her, and that she lost her energy, and all she talked about was the diet and the color of the stips she used to determine how she was doing. Today she has gained back the weight and is almost back to eating normally, they never divorced and may get back together. Anyway, I did talk to my wife. First she said she simply tried on of the "Boca Burgers" at a resaurant and liked it. When I asked about the "Bac-os Bits" she admitted that she was trying to loose a little weight and wanted to try the "Bac-os Bits" on salads. I reminded her of our friend and my past experiences. She said I did not have anything to worry about, that she would never go that far. After more talk about loosing weight we agreed to take a 1/2 hour walk after dinner every day. Then I told her about the article I read and ask if she was having an affair or thinking about one. She said no. And she said she had read several articles on the subject. She kind of sarcastically asked if I was going to be more observant. I thought that was a cheap shot. But she said she was thinking about changing her hair color and cutting her hair short. I am very happy we talked before she did that. I like her hair color and her hair length. Then I asked why she wanted to make all these changes since I like her the way she is . She never really answered the question in a way I could understand. I think she is going through some kind of "mid-life" thing. I think I will have to help her through this. __________________ "Democracy is two wolves and a sheep voting on lunch." "It is useless for the sheep to pass resolutions on vegetarianism while the wolf is of a different opinion." "If you live among wolves you have to act like one." "A lady screams at the mouse but smiles at the wolf. A gentleman is a wolf who sends flowers."